Let’s see things from a different perspective. Boundaries, as you already know, is not just about learning to say “No”. It is a complete skill set that you need to master before entering a new relationship or job or setting up a business or even resetting current relatiohnships.
This is my step-by-step framework that has been proven to make you stand your ground and NOT ALLOW anyone to dim YOUR light!
Remember this: if you learn how to predict reactions, how to read others, and how to harness your self-worth, the consequences you might be so afraid of will have a hard time affecting you. Until one day, these -not so pleasant at times - consequences will hurt no more and will not longer have a negative impact on you.
There is now a framework to help you ignore the other voices and find your own voice. This framework will guide you towards developing a set of principles that you will stand by.
No more anxiety about what others will think and say. No more frustration for not speaking up when you should. No more losing jobs or opportunities by not being bold and strong.
Don’t Let them Dim Your Light
So many thoughts happen in your head when you feel that your boundaries have been overstepped. Sadness, embarrassment, anger…All happen after THAT moment when you know you should have stepped up.
This is YOUR blueprint
This is where you learn the exact tools and techniques that are suitable for you, and only you. This is where coaching matters.
Too much forgiveness. Too much accommodating others. Too much putting yourself in the back seat.
Timing is everything in life. There is a time when you should be kind, accommodating and taking the back seat. One of the core skills you will learn is TIMING.
You don’t have to change yourself or your values. You just need to balance all out with the right timing and strength.
There is no easy answer to this one without feeling hurt. And there is not just one, or two or three reasons that if you tackled, you would be able to establish your boundaries. What research has shown, though, is that in general, you know it when you have missed the chance to draw the line.
You might dislike conflict - it is terrible when you have to look at the other person and engage in an argument. Isn’t there a way around it? There is, thankfully
You might not have practised in having difficult conversations. These conversations can drain you and make you feel depleted for the rest of the day.
Feeling not worthy does not do you good - is it a matter of confidence? No, it is a matter of self-respect. You have to fight for that respect, hard as it may sound.
Is it external validation that you are looking for? This may have turned you into a people pleaser.
Are you too kind and generous? For whatever reason you do this, good and honourable values, if not practised based on the “golden mean” can lead to using them in excess which is unhealthy.
Do you feel you do not belong to an aggressive and unfriendly society? Do you feel it falling heavy on your shoulders? Peer pressure and cultural norms can damage your role, position and personal limits.
Are you feeling emotionally exhausted from blurred work-life boundaries? This is probably because you have set those boundaries the wrong way.
At the end of the day, you decide to change things. And you follow some tips and strategies, only to realise that a lot more is required to make things happen for you.
This is your invitation
With more than 30 years’ experience in teaching and a full 15 years in coaching individuals and groups, I have seen it all when it comes to the difficulty in drawing the line. Making your personal limits clear is quite hard, yet doable. I have “extracted” all the skills you need to work on to become a clear communicator, a strong personality, a respected individual who does not feel guilty when you do something and feel the need to apologise.
It is time to negotiate your life on your terms. And I will stand right beside you while you are doing that! Are you ready to join me?
Over the years, I collected “evidence”. What works and what doesn’t when it comes to establishing your boundaries. This programme guides you through everything and you also benefit from live coaching calls.
You are invited to participate in the group coaching programme after you get to know me and trust my work. I use a state-of-the-art e-learning platform which hosts all course materials. These include short videos, e-books and tasks for you to work on the subjects we analyse in the calls. This helps you become better at establishing personal limits and much faster than normal.
Coaching calls are held on specific dates and times and are recorded. The recordings are uploaded on the platform which has private access.
Before you learn to act on anything, you need to explore and understand how you operate. The next step will be to establish what competencies are missing so you can start building them in the next module.
This is not a theoretical part. In fact, it is as practical as the other two. I will teach you how to discover the levels of respect you can have for yourself, the extent to which you serve others and the point where you should stop, if and how you blame yourself or feel guilty and the language you use the keeps you locked in ugly situations. I will coach you on how to become more aware of your reactions, your needs, your current communication style and negotiation skills. I will work with you on your levels of perception and core skills such as seeing different perspectives, making decisions and using critical thinking.
This module ensures that you learn as many tools as possible - but not just any tools. I help you learn those that suit your personality and specific character traits. Not all techniques are for everyone. And this is the beauty of this programme. Everything you learn is something that you could apply without feeling awkard or uncomfortable. Make no mistake: you will need to get uncomfortable, but not when it comes to choosing your tools.
I will teach you the skills required to become stronger. To feel more confident. I will work on your self-worth and self-esteem. These skills include negotiation tactics, reading others, discovering the golden mean, judging when to act, developing a good sense of timing in difficult situations and learning the right language to handle difficult conversations.
Now that you have understood how you operate and what stops you from drawing the line and you have developed your primary skills to set boundaries, it is time to put those tools in action. In this module I work with you on creating your personal playbook. This playbook is your strategy for change and implementation.
Over the course of this step, I will ask you to test some tools out and return with your reflections and outcomes. I will help you tweak and refine your style until you are satisfied with the results. Slowly you will feel you are becoming stronger and more capable to handle situations you previously thought were hard and drenching. I will walk you through mock situations and help you have conversations with conviction. You will learn to stand your ground with confidence without allowing anyone to dim your light.
This programme is not an online course where you get to study on your own. This is a live coaching programme that ALSO includes a self-study feature!
Fifteen years of coaching experience and thirty years of teaching and training have helped craft this programme which is based on research and scientific findings when it comes to personalities and behavioural change.
Each Module has a $1,199 investment. You may purchase each separately as you attend it. You may choose one of the two options.
You can go for a ONE-time payment of $1,199
or
4 monthly payments of $320
I am also giving you the option to get all three modules together at a better price. The payments run for the duration of the course.
You can go for a ONE-time payment of $3,140
or
8 monthly payments of $397
SAVE $457 when you purchase the bundle
